The One Most Surprising Way Ever, To Deal With Problem Relatives Over The Holidays. By J.B. Vadeboncoeur

10 Dec

Do you have to face people this holiday season that you would rather not? I invite you to take a new look at a relationship that is difficult.

Take a few deep breaths and exhale longer than you inhale. Push the air out with a big sigh, unless your boss is right there and will hear you.

I offered this exercise to nurses. After the nurses did this regarding a difficult patient, the patient was not healed of her condition, but she did become continent again. It was because she sensed the change in the nurses. They became more empathetic toward her.

Empathy is not sympathy. I’ve heard it defined as:

Sympathy – someone has dug themselves into a deep pit and you jump in there with them.

Empathy – you stay out of the pit and throw them a rope.

We’re going for the empathy toward the other person, the person you have the problem with.

1.  Take a piece of paper and draw a picture of yourself with the other person. (Stick figures work.) Draw the two of you in whatever situation comes to mind.

2.  Write out the problem as you see it., in your own words and as much detail as you like.

3.  Now write out the scenario as if you were the other person. This requires that you put yourself in their place. Take a minute to focus here. It might help to say to yourself – I am (insert name of problem person here) and I say……..

4.  Next, pick an inanimate object in the scene you drew. It can be anything, the floor, an object in the scene or anything you know would be there. Now write from the point of view of the object. Write as if it were a neutral person and write what it sees or thinks about the whole situation.

If you would like, please share how this went for you and any awareness gained.

While doing this exercise keep these in mind:

  1. Don’t hurt yourself and don’t hurt others.
  2. Take care of yourself so you can help take care of others.
  3. Use everything for your upliftment.
  4. Share your process if you want.

This blog is for sharing and upliftment purposes only. The approaches and methods in this blog are not intended to diagnose, treat or cure any disease or form of illness. This blog is not designed nor intended to replace any form of therapy or medical care.

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