Wednesday Wisdom

05 May
Wednesday Wisdom

I’ve been wanting to come up with a meme. Here is my idea. It’s called Wednesday Wisdom.


When a friend said to me, “I want to tell you something, but you can’t tell anyone.” I replied then don’t tell me.


The friend said well, I’ll tell you anyway and proceeded to tell me about her challenges with another person.


A few minutes later the other person called and said, (honest to God), the same thing. “I want to tell you something but you can’t tell anyone.”  Again I said, then don’t tell me. She said, well, I’ll tell you anyway. She proceeded to tell me about her challenges with the other person.


I think each of them wanted me to be on ‘their’ side.


Gossiping is something I avoid, even or especially when I find myself wanting to tell a third party about someone who I perceive has ‘wronged’ me. Tell the person who ‘wronged’ you. It’s the more direct way to get some resolution.


Neither of those two friends has ever said that to me again. If they did, I think I would say don’t tell me. period end of story.


My next level of challenge is to say straight out to the person, “Are you trying to involve me in gossip?” I have avoided that statement so far out of fear of offending the other person. Enough already. I realize I would want someone to stop me if I were gossiping.


© 2010 J.B. Vadeboncoeur


Posted by on May 5, 2010 in Uncategorized


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2 responses to “Wednesday Wisdom

  1. Robin

    May 5, 2010 at 6:50 pm

    Yes, yes, so wise. Definitely one of those things I want so badly to adopt but never seem to follow through on. And I need to. You and your two friends? Sound like me and my two sisters, in infinite combinations.

    • purplume

      May 8, 2010 at 9:13 am

      Yes, it could be me and my three sisters. Best luck to you and all of us.


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