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Wednesday Wisdom

“Finish each day and be done with it! You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a NEW day. You shall begin it Serenely and with too high a Spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense! ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson~



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Posted by on September 29, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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WEDNESDAY WISDOM – Psycho-synthesis

Wednesday Wisdom

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We would rather be ruined than changed,

We would rather die in our dread

Than climb the cross of the moment

And let our illusions die.

By W.H. Auden

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Shortmama is taking the week off so no From Muffin Top To Skinny Jeans this week.

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Instead what’s happening is that I did a psycho-synthesis process. I called forward my inner aspect that is in charge of making choices.

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As I did it, I laughed thinking it would be like an aspect in the cockpit of a 747 with all those controls and only be ‘allowed’ to push one button.

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Are you getting why I needed to call forward and work with this aspect? That I am a little constrained?

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What came forward was a little grey bird. it’s feathers were wet and looked as if it had been groomed with an eggbeater. It was very scrawny.

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I cried just to look at the puny thing I had created in my consciousness.

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I was doing a process with it called going up the mountain. The idea is you take an aspect and by going up the mountain, you go to a higher level of perspective.

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As we started up the mountain, I thought, This little bird is too puny to walk all that way with his little bird feet. I picked him up and he hopped onto my right shoulder. I felt my shoulder relax and then my left shoulder relaxed too. I used to carry a lot of tension in my shoulders.

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We walked on and up, and as we came out of a misty cloud, the bird transformed into a beautiful white dove. It was all plump and fuffy and majestic.
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My inner peace, I thought.

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At the mountain top, I conversed with the wise beings who reside there. What came up for me is that no matter what choice I make in any given situation, I can still love all involved. It takes the pressure off for me to know this.

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I received an affirmation:

I am loving regardless of race, creed, color, situation, circumstance or environment.

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When it was time to go down the mountain I flew on the back of the bird. Peace all.

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© 2010 J.B. Vadeboncoeur

 
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Posted by on June 2, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Wednesday Wisdom

Wednesday Wisdom

I’ve been wanting to come up with a meme. Here is my idea. It’s called Wednesday Wisdom.

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When a friend said to me, “I want to tell you something, but you can’t tell anyone.” I replied then don’t tell me.

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The friend said well, I’ll tell you anyway and proceeded to tell me about her challenges with another person.

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A few minutes later the other person called and said, (honest to God), the same thing. “I want to tell you something but you can’t tell anyone.”  Again I said, then don’t tell me. She said, well, I’ll tell you anyway. She proceeded to tell me about her challenges with the other person.

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I think each of them wanted me to be on ‘their’ side.

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Gossiping is something I avoid, even or especially when I find myself wanting to tell a third party about someone who I perceive has ‘wronged’ me. Tell the person who ‘wronged’ you. It’s the more direct way to get some resolution.

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Neither of those two friends has ever said that to me again. If they did, I think I would say don’t tell me. period end of story.

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My next level of challenge is to say straight out to the person, “Are you trying to involve me in gossip?” I have avoided that statement so far out of fear of offending the other person. Enough already. I realize I would want someone to stop me if I were gossiping.

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© 2010 J.B. Vadeboncoeur

 
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Posted by on May 5, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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WEDNESDAY WISDOM and FROM MUFFIN TOP TO SKINNY JEANS

Wednesday Wisdom

I’ve been wanting to come up with a meme. Here is my idea. It’s called Wednesday Wisdom.

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KISS Keep It Simple Sweetie.

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I’ve loved this idea since I first heard it. I was attracted to my husband partly because he knows how to keep things simple.

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Here are my best thoughts on the subject.

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Have you heard the story about the man living on the beach with a small boat.? An industrious type walks up to him and says, “You could advertise and take people out fishing. You could gradually buy more boats and become quite wealthy at it.”

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Then man on the beach said and then what?

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The Industrious one  said, then you could eventually retire and live comfortably on the beach.

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The man said but I have that now.

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Sometimes I think oh, I could do this or that to earn money. I like it better when I think what else can I get rid of and not have to take care of? I have a goal to leave my things in order and at a minimum when I die.

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What do I have an abundance of that I can share? The produce from my garden, the rocks that my land is covered with, my writing, my loving and caring.

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Have I showed gratitude and given back to the ‘source” today? I like to tithe to the source of my teachings. I often think on an ideal day I would meditate for 1/10th of the day. (1 hour and 24 minutes.)  Once my family was coming to visit and I looked around and saw that everything was in order. Usually when guests come I rush around and go through a lot of stress.  This time because I had been doing a lot of spiritual exercises, I was good to go.

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I’d love to hear what you have found works in keeping things simple? XD

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Short Mama at Family Of Shorts started this meme and I want in. I want the results.

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How did you do on our first month of the journey?

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The first week I chose to walk/jog three times a week and do water aerobics three times a week. It was so helpful that I committed to that because then when I wanted to cop out I didn’t.  My weight has stayed the same.  My waist is down 1/2 inch. I think for me my diet and calories in are okay, can keep tweaking them a little but increasing exercise is where it’s at. I have gotten so I can jog straight for 30 minutes now.

Were you able to stay on track with the 3 simple changes you chose in our first challenge?

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No, I’ve changed around and lost focus.  The second week I wrote my post early and assumed we would pick three different things so I did. Then my committment got ‘fuzzy.’  My new committment is to do the same exercising including walking to water aerobics, but when listening to my body I can take off one extra day a week if I need to.

My second thing is to leave off the Japanese tea sweets.

My third thing is to do strength training a minimum of once a week, ideally twice.

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Are there adjustments that you can see you need to make in order to continue to be successful at winning this battle of losing weight?

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I need to be very careful about the junk food carbs. I need to go easy on the increasing exercise and listen to my body, to be extra careful about avoiding injury. I need to continue to be sure I have cold unsweetened tea available.

Thank you ShortMama for this meme. I am optimistic.

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© 2010 J.B. Vadeboncoeur

 
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Posted by on April 28, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Wednesday Wisdom And From Muffin Top To Skinny Jeans

Wednesday Wisdom

I’ve been wanting to come up with a meme. Here is my idea. It’s called Wednesday Wisdom.

Part A
Write a post on your blog about something you have learned in your life that you are willing to share. It can be as simple as how to shuck peas faster or as deep as how to find the meaning in your life. Tell us in as much or as little detail.

Part B

Ask others to share awarenesses they have on a challenge that you are facing. Go ahead ask for help, the blogosphere is here at your command.

Part C

Post your blog and then come back here and leave a comment with your blog url so we know to visit you.

Part D


Have fun. Laugh.

FREEING UP MY ENERGY

Completing things is one of my favorite expansive behaviors to do when I am feeling constricted.

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I find if I make a list of everything I need to do and start completing as many as I can, I start getting more and more energetic. For some things I write  the date I will do it, and then I can let go of that nagging anxiety.  Having a time when I will deal with each thing, gives me freedom to let go of thinking about it.   Before doing this process, my mind seems to think it has to bug me as if I have to do everything RIGHT NOW.

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In David Allen’s book GETTING THINGS DONE,  he goes into the process in greater detail and efficiency.  He says in his book “Many executives I have worked with during the day to clear the decks of their mundane “stuff” have spent the following evening, having a stream of ideas and visions about their company and their future. This happens as an automatic consequence of unsticking their workflow.”  (Allen 2001, p. 20.)

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My experience of ‘unsticking my workflow’, is that, it let’s me quiet my mind so I can more easily find little things come into my mind, little important things like call a sick friend.  Without doing the process, those little important things get lost in all the urgency.

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Even more, I find as I direct myself into positive behaviors, there is less energy or opportunity to fall back into habitual negative patterns.  If, I think of the day as 100 units of energy available to me, and direct 15 of them into positive behaviors, then my day falls into heightened positiveity.   If I spend my day thinking about doing something beneficial like exercising, but not doing it, then I have a day of greater negativity.  For me the question is, what things do I direct myself into that will have the greatest positive impact for the effort?

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Short Mama at Family Of Shorts started this meme and I want in. I want the results.

So questions to answer this week:

How do you handle a gain or the feeling of knowing your didn’t do as well as you had hoped?

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I have learned not to beat myself up and to look for what works.

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What kind of effect does this have on you?

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It is much better than getting discouraged and eating about it, or giving up.

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Is there something constructive you can do to reward yourself for small steps?
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I think I will go through my closet and get rid of any clothes I can let go of. That way there is room for new ones.

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And how are you doing this week?
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I went to bed at 6 PM lat night. I don’t know why I am so tired. Maybe after exercise I will take my laptop and work from bed.

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What were your challenges?

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I ran into a piece of cheesecake.  I ate it in two parts and figured it in my daily calories. Ya know It wasn’t that great tasting. I did eat it anyway and enjoyed it. I must remember tomorrow, when I bring the rest of it to a sewing group, that I already had my piece and to leave what is left over with them. Yes, I took a piece out of it.  XD  It is all frozen and pre-cut.

 
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Posted by on April 21, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Wednesday Wisdom & From Muffin Top to Skinny Jeans

Wednesday Wisdom

I’ve been wanting to come up with a meme. Here is my idea. It’s called Wednesday Wisdom.

Part A
Write a post on your blog about something you have learned in your life that you are willing to share. It can be as simple as how to shuck peas faster or as deep as how to find the meaning in your life. Tell us in as much or as little detail.

Part B

Ask others to share awarenesses they have on a challenge that you are facing. Go ahead ask for help, the blogoshere is here at your command.

Part C

Post your blog and then come back here and leave a comment with your blog url so we know to visit you.

Part D


Have fun. Laugh.

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For more, see Marianne at The Fickle White Woman and her post on Wednesdays Words Of Wisdom.

BEING NEUTRAL ABOUT WORDS.

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My husband and I have had the experience of desensitizing ourselves to words. That is, we don’t give energy to words.

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There is a technique called exhaust the response. This is how I got to be neutral about words and no longer give them power to upset me.

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I had the experience in a group where the others would say over and over to me words that I found upsetting. You can do this for yourself in the mirror. The important thing is to know that you are doing this to help yourself NOT to upset yourself. What I would do is say a little prayer first asking for protection and loving from my higher power before I started and ask that only what is for my highest good come forward. I do this as insurance and to remind me that I’m helping myself.

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Take a word that upsets you and say it over and over to yourself. Don’t be surprised if emotion comes up. It surprised me very much that the word that had the most power over me was ‘crybaby.” As I heard it over and over, I remembered my brothers taunting me by saying that. I cried and then it came to a head and passed and I laughed and it no longer bothers me.

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As you do this process other words may come to mind. Go with the ones with the most ‘charge’ on them first.

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After this my teenage nephew tested me by saying the F word. I stayed neutral. Then he had to try it in front of his friends. He went on to learn that even if your aunt is neutral about it, the rest of the world is not necessarily so.

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What I like best is being neutral about words allows me to listen more to where the person is coming from and what they are trying to communicate, instead of getting upset by what they are saying.

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This blog is for sharing and upliftment purposes only. The approaches and methods in this blog are not intended to diagnose, treat or cure any disease or form of illness. This blog is not designed nor intended to replace any form of therapy or medical care.
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Short Mama at Family Of Shorts started this meme and I want in. I want the results.

Alright so did you do your assignment? Because I have my ruler ready to slap your booties hands if you didnt.

“Last week when I brought up this weekly weight loss dealio I demanded challenged you to pick 3 small things that you could change that would start your weight loss. Emphasis on the small things. We all know that ultimately the weigh to lose weight and keep it off it is a complete lifestyle change that is necessary. Especially for those of use that have a lot of weight to lose. Unfortunately there is no magic answer, it takes lots of hard work on a daily basis. But small steps can make a difference. You would be surprised at what effect a small change can have.”

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I did my three changes for last week and TWICE I would have skipped exercising, but I didn’t want to have to cop to missing it here in this meme.

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So already I see this has value for me.

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I wrote this post last night before I read your post so I am adding in:

My weight this morning was 149.5#. My waist is at 32″. My goal is for my waist to be 30″ or less, whatever weight that correlates to. My doctor told me my excess waistline is a result of excess carbs. So if I cut out the empty calorie ones, that would be helpful.

My three things for this week are:

Eat something instead of Japanese tea sweets this week.

Have at least 40 oz. of cold unsweetened tea on hand.

Do strength exercises twice this week.

Okay, best luck to each of us.

© 2010 J.B. Vadeboncoeur

 
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Posted by on April 14, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Wednesday Wisdom – How To Have Fun With A Headache

Wednesday Wisdom

I’ve been wanting to come up with a meme. Here is my idea. It’s called Wednesday Wisdom.

Part A
Write a post on your blog about something you have learned in your life that you are willing to share. It can be as simple as how to shuck peas faster or as deep as how to find the meaning in your life. Tell us in as much or as little detail.

Part B

Ask others to share awarenesses  they have on a challenge that you are facing. Go ahead ask for help, the blogoshere is here at your command.

Part C

Post your blog and then come back here  and leave  a comment with your blog url so we know to visit you.

Part D


Have fun. Laugh.

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And now – How To Have Fun With A Headache.

I’ve had headaches since puberty. It was many years till I realized the hormone connection.

The duration of the headaches mimicked my period, that is from 4 to 8 days. At their worst I would vomit for about 18 hours if I ate or drank anything.

My sister told me that some American Indian tribes have females with  their period, spend that time in reflection and journaling and creative pursuits because that is when they are more highly attuned to their highest nature. She told me that some women arrange their work schedules to take advantage of this time. I felt envious of this until I discovered that my body was getting me to take time off work.

It all got better when I decided to have fun with the headaches.

1. One day when I was vomiting and feeling hungry I thought “Well if I am going to vomit it anyway, I may as well eat ice cream.” Surprise, I didn’t usually vomit ice cream.

2. I put a lot of pressure on myself to accomplish. I think it came from not feeling like I am enough and I had to do more to try to be even. When I would get a severe headache, I couldn’t go to work,or use my eyes, so no computer, reading or TV.  I discovered that all kinds of things I put pressure on myself to do fell away and didn’t get done. Surprise – the earth didn’t end. So now if I get a headache, I say what would be fun to do and I do it. I do spend a lot of time meditating. It is a satisfying challenge to go past the pain in meditation.

3. I ask my husband to run light energy through my body. He has always been willing to do it and most times I fall asleep after. I take as many naps as I can. It comforts me and passes the time until I feel better.

4. I take a bath. It usually helps for a while. I have taken as many as 4 baths in one  day.

5. I do creative things that are fun, no pressure. I find to do right brained things makes it worse so I never get into math or right brained activities on those days. In fact anything that makes it feel worse, I avoid.

I knew I did not want to medicate  to relieve the symptoms. I believe my body was trying to tell me something and I wanted to get at the underlying cause. Over the years my life has changed to greater relaxation and less pressure.

Please share anything that has worked for you in dealing with headaches.

© 2010 J.B. Vadeboncoeur

 
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Posted by on April 7, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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